Tuesday, April 20, 2010

I really need to send this, but don't have the courage to do so yet. I need to get things off my chest and this is as good a place as any. She doesn't read this blog so she won't know it is here,

To My former friend:

We were friends, good friends but gradually things changed. Two summers ago you told me you had no time to get together, even for a cup of coffee. Last summer it took you a month to return my first phone call, another month to return my second phone call and my third phone call you ignored. You dropped out of our birthday group without an explanation and only bothered to tell one person whose job it was to pass on your message. You ignored the birthday card I sent and the phone call I made on your birthday and you forgot I even had one. On the day of my birthday celebration you discussed, in my face, how you were going to celebrate thr birthday of someone else. You've let me know loud and clear you have no time for my friendship and though it bothers me, I will move on. I've learned you can't control anything but yourself so I won't bother trying.

Now, you pass me in the hall and want to chat. You see me at after school activities and retirement parties and act like everything is the same as it has always been . It is easy for you to be friendly at these events, it requires no exertion on your part. It is not the same for me. I can't be phony and pretend everything is honky dory when its not. You see, I have a busy life too and I don't have time for people who don't have time for me.

A mutual friend told me to talk to you but since you don't return phone calls, this is impossible. Besides, there is nothing more to be said. By saying nothing, you've said it all. I know you are a good person with a good heart and I wish you all the best. I always enjoyed your company and your friendship and I think you used to feel the same about mine. I don't know what changed. I do know that I wish you all the best.

Your former friend,



Ms. Tsouris said...

One thing is clear: it's your friend's loss. It may hurt now, but somewhere along the line your former friend will realize this.

Ricochet said...

See, you don't have to send it on. You have - she just won't hear it (any more than she heard the phone calls).

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry about your friend having treated you so badly. A couple of years ago I went through something similar. The worst part, I know, is not getting any explanation. Just keep in mind that whatever happened, happened in her head, and that it's not your fault.

Chaz said...


I will always consider you my friend.

Pissedoffteacher said...

Thanks for your nice words.