yesterday's meeting would have required was an open dialog and there would be no issues to discuss. But, no, Mr. I Am Right And You Are Wrong prefers lecturing. (I'll have to remember this next time he complains about a teacher not getting enough kids to speak in class.)
The whole incident revolved around a young man with some emotional problems whose recommendation I would not write. The boy did not know who to go to as he is fairly new in the country so I suggest he ask Mr. I Am Right And You Are Wrong as he knew the boy better than I did. The boy is fragile and I didn't want to tell him my real reasons for saying no. And, if the conversation was allowed, Mr. I Am Right And You Are Wrong would have heard my reasons and about the 15 recommendations for AP kids that I already wrote.
Mr. I Am Right And You Are Wrong can go around the school and ask anyone as I know he has been doing. He'll hear exactly what I would have told him had I been given the chance.