A and B decide to have lunch together and to invite C and D to join them.
C answers the phone immediately and responds in the affirmative.
D does not answer and messages are left on both home and cell phones asking D to return the call. D does not respond so e-mails are sent. Still, no response from D.
A knows D often forgets to call so A calls D one more time and this time D answers. D says lunch would be wonderful but wonders why B did not call. "Is it possible that B doesn't really want me to come? I don't want to show up where I am not wanted." A assures D that D is wanted and and wanted especially by B. After some persuasion, D agrees to go.
I know how D feels. If I am not 100% sure I am wanted, I tend to not show up either. What is with us? Why do we all lack the confidence we need to move ahead?