Sunday, June 15, 2014

Father's Day 2014



Today is my first Father's Day without my dad.  It feels strange not to be making that early morning trip to the Bronx to take him out for his favorite meals.  We only went to the diner near his house and he only ordered a short stack of French toast but he insisted on reading the menu every single time and asking me if they served what he wanted.

It has been 9 months since he died, but my fingers still itch to call every night at 6 and first thing every morning.  I miss the strong, confident man he once was, the father who could and did everything and I also miss the needy, dependent man he became. He was my dad and I loved him so much, as much as he loved me.

There are no words to describe the impact a father (or mother) has on a child.  Most children think of their father as being the best father and I know my dad was one of them.  He was always around when I needed him, from the time I was a little girl until the age I was when he got sick.  I knew he was gone when he stopped telling me to call him when I got home or when he stopped telling me to stay home whenever the weather was bad.

I miss the crazy phone calls consisting of weather reports and what he ate (which was always the same thing.)  I miss preparing his favorite meal-meatballs.  I miss him but I am happy he is spending this Father's day with my mom, the love of his life.  He had no quality of life at the end.  I pray there is quality in death.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Sorry that you're missing your Dad today. I guess the "Firsts" are always the hardest.

Do something special for yourself and just try to get through the day (tomorrow will be better). I'm sure your Dad would want that for you.

Mary

Pissed Off said...

Thanks. Good friend invited us for dinner.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this. My father died 15 years ago; he also called with weather reports. Every year, he informed me of the longest and shortest days. He showed me the flowers of spring and the color of trees. I pass all this information to my little grandchildren, keeping my father in my heart, always.

Sorry you're missing your dad. How lucky you were to have him.

Barbara

Anonymous said...


Here's a link for a youtube video of Bono singing a song, Kite, which he wrote when his father was ill. At the time they recorded this video his father had recently passed. It's sad but at the same time very comforting. Hope you enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zJaoD3YVopw

Mary